But here’s some of his practical advice.

“‘a good marriage takes a lot of work.’ No, it doesn’t. Bad marriages take lots of work. Good marriages are easy. When was the last time you heard a guy with his cute girlfriend sitting on his lap tell you ‘having a girlfriend takes a lot of work?’”

“If you are unhappy with the things your wife does, it’s not going to improve. End it now and have more time left to find the right woman and have a good relationship with her.”

From cheapseatview at blogspot.
“In the past, I’ve heard some of my married friends tell me privately that their wife is not the woman they married. Years ago, a pal of mine from Madison and I were out for lunch. He told me flat out that she changed 180 degrees from before and after marriage. Once the honeymoon was over, so was the sex. Suddenly, he couldn’t do anything right. He said that he thought she was the sweetest person in the world before the wedding. Yet, she became, his words, a ‘Royal Bitch’ almost immediately after the honeymoon. I’ve heard this from others, as well.”

Some men interrupt their honeymoons to file for immediate divorce due to this. They’re the smart ones. John Ross has more on this in the link above.

After

I thought I might never see my daughter again, and I felt something let go in my head. Suddenly my speech was slurred and I felt off-balance.

It turned out my blood pressure had spiked to 230/145 and I’d had a stroke right there outside the judge’s chambers. A few hours later, my entire right side was paralyzed and I was lying in a hospital bed, idly wondering if I’d ever walk again.

In the end, too many people view relationships as a ‘what’s in it for me’ deal, rather than an elevating. ‘what’s in it for us’ reality.

Elevate the relationship and you elevate your partner. Elevate your partner and you elevate yourself.

1: Do not even entertain the concept of marrying any woman in the english speaking world since the statistical rates for Americans, is and has started to seap into the other anglophile cultures; leaving basically the rest of the world – which isn’t really that bad actually. As an immigrant myself I have met overwhelmingly strong women who are independent yet, with a higher value and understanding of what marriage is in relationship to what love is, and also tend to come from examples of social and historical foundational strength.
2: Wear a cast iron jock-strap when I start shopping state side for Xmas incase some crazed women decides to find who I am and stalk me and castrate me.
3: Pay by the hour.
4: just joking on 3, everyone knows self love is the best love.

I don’t find – personally – that it really is that much of a problem in person, though if it is, it’s well hidden, or I’m oblivious – though most likely a combination of both… though i do have a tendency to purposely ignore anything beyond what happens to have my attention at that particular moment… but then I’m sure you understand that…

I followed that one blog, and then ended up at the blog where that one blog was ranting on here, and well… in a nutshell?

same dysfunction, different person. They’re not worth the attention, because ultimately they both need a hug, a lobotomy, and lithium… though not necessarily in that order.

Very weird (and enlightening) situation. You guys aren’t usually facing a friendly crowd, are you?

After all, where is the fun in this if we can’t take a stick and shake the grass to find the snakes now…. this was very interesting…

now… about that comment by robinsteele.blogspot.com…. uhhhh ok… free speech? Remember what that is?

Being an american citizen is advanced membership. It means screaming one’s viewpoints at the top of their lungs, while someone across the street is screaming their viewpoint at the top of their lungs which happens to be a complete contradictory viewpoint.

You don’t have to like the viewpoint, but you have to swallow it. Whether or not you like it, otherwise it isn’t freedom, or free speech. It’s fascism. Period.

(sorry I wrote this on your blog, but well… if other people read comments like I do, then they should see free speech in all its glory).

J

And the Hermit Smiles….

A mere refugee from reality again

Please see the battle I’m fighting to get a man who advocates violence against women off blogger. could you do a post and encourage your readers to sign my petition to end the hate? Thank you. Robin Steele

http://robinsteele.blogspot.com